I am sitting in a hotel bar listenin to men bragging, very loudly. It’s weird. There is such a culture of overt insecurity amonst these guys. He is shouting about his wife and the girl he bangs on the side. It makes me feel sick.

This is part of the reason that the LS works for us. Thrill travels for work and I can say, he should never need to discuss how he “cheats” on his wife.

We both are individual people, with the usual urges. If either of us finds someone interesting when the other isnt around – it’s cool. We are not tied to monogamy. We have rules. No secrets. We share the info right away and check in wih each other. We allow each other to feel what we feel, but do not blame or shame.

It’s happened, once for him. He met an awesome woman and took her to bed while working in a tropical location. Tey spent two nights together. It was a big deal for me, but after it happened, he connected me and his play partner and we hit it off (online, since we live very far apart). I’m glad they had the expereince and I’m glad that I got to make a new friend.

That might seem strange to some people – his lover for a weekend became my friend, who I care about, but it’s the way it is. I love that about our life. That love isn’t limited – it just keeps growing and can make room for all the people you care about in all the ways that you care about them.